This morning the thoughts started from the smells.
A homeless guy with his bag of cans walked by exiting the bus just after a someone wearing too much perfume. And I thought which one do I like least? And then I thought why do we want to cover up our smell? Which led me to why do we 'cover up' the Truth of who and how we are in the moment?
I read a FB post yesterday that was a response to another post about allowing oneself to experience grief. The post was 'breathe deeply, let go of the grief, it doesn't serve you' ... and this mornings smell 'cover up' experience prompted me to write about 'covering up' our truth.
So why think that grief doesn't serve? Why do we expect ourselves to skip past the powerful, life changing experience of grief? I know from personal experience that getting stuck in any emotion does not serve me, and I also KNOW first hand that trying to cover up what I am really feeling creates stress in my body and most often the emotion stays around much longer!
Remember the last time you were somewhere with a friend and you weren't supposed to laugh but something had tickled your funny bone and how much your body insisted that you laugh? ANY emotion suppressed creates stress in the body. And yes we can breathe ourselves into expelling the laughter as much as the grief, and its powerful practice remembering to breathe deeply! And as we are living in this human body that is continually experiencing feelings, emotional and physical, why would we want to 'hurry' through any of them?
Imagine living in a culture where you were allowed to be with your sadness and grieving because everyone knew it to be YOUR experience? I have a theory that others do not want to see our grief cause their body has residue of grief and they are afraid that seeing ours will bring theirs to the surface.
Be not afraid of what is inside you. Honour it. Be with it. Let it find it's way 'thru' you. There is a line in the bible, 'and so it came to pass'. A dear friend added to that 'it came to pass...it didn't come to stay'! Grief is letting go of what was, missing it, honouring it, loving that it was, and 'letting it pass'. And if we let it flow thru us so we are 'empty' of it, then there is room for new. New beauty, new love, new friends, new family, new work, new joy!
Love You!